Whatever the style of celebration – be it a bohemian garden party, an intimate family ceremony or a traditional and grand affair – there are a few essential rules every guest should bear in mind, and they begin with rsvp-ing.
If a reply card is provided with your invitation it should be returned by the date requested. If no reply card is supplied the response should be sent to the issuer of the invitation. Very often an email address will be supplied, to which you should respond by the requested date. A casual phone call, or spoken confirmation over a glass of wine is not sufficient, no matter how long you’ve been friends with the bride and groom. Some couples may set up a wedding reply website where you can email your acceptance or regrets.
Bear in mind also that many couples like to hold onto the reply cards after the event as keepsakes, and they are often used to double-check the spellings of names on the seating plan. Also, if you know that you will be unavoidably late or unable to attend a part of the day’s celebration, such as the ceremony or the meal, make this clear, so that the couple can prepare accordingly.
If a dress code is cited, adhere to it. And the old adage that only the bride should wear white still holds true.
If you have been issued with an invite that does not include a plus one, don’t show up on the day with a guest unless you have discussed it with the couple beforehand – only a certain number of place settings have been laid and paid for at the reception. Similarly, as an invited guest, the couple has paid for your attendance at the reception so don’t be tempted to extend the traditional stopover at a pub after the ceremony to an afternoon-long sojourn.
One of the fastest ways to ruin a couple’s perfect day is to tweet, Instagram or Facebook details or pictures of their wedding without permission, so respect the social media policy of the couple. Smartphones with cameras are ubiquitous but many couples would rather leave the photography to the professionals, and prefer to be the first to release pictures of their happy day.
If a dress code is cited, adhere to it. And the old adage that only the bride should wear white still holds true. In fact even if the bride is not wearing white (though an overwhelming number of brides still do), neither should her guests. It’s simply bad manners.
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